4 Tips on Communicating with Others
They say communication rules the nation. I say (good) communication rules the nation with understanding at its foundation!
Anyone can communicate. Merriam-Webster states that communication is simply:
“ a verbal or written message”
“a process by which information is exchanged between individuals through a common system of symbols, signs, or behavior”
Synonyms: dispatch, message
However not many people understand the psychology behind people and how it pertains to the way in which they communicate themselves to others. Although this is a broad subject, if you remember the following three tips, you will surely save yourself and others lots of time, emotional embarrassment, and unnecessary arguments.
When interacting with people there are a few things that you should understand. They are:
- In order to Effectively communicate you have to Actively listen. Single handedly the most important thing to know surrounding the topic of communication. Most people think they are communicating because they are speaking but true communication comes with the understanding of what the other person said or is saying. Try listening with your body, you’ll be amazed at what you can hear people really saying to you (when you pay attention!). Link provided for additional information on effective listening below.
Now that we know how to effectively communicate with others looks dig a little deeper. REMEMBER :
- You are a Mirror! People project on to you their inner feelings…so what appears to be about you may not be about you at all. On the other side of that if it appears to be about you via your perception, but it is not, then you have some things to deal with within yourself as well.
- They (the other party) are their own being complete with individual motivations, agendas, and intentions. Personal motivations, agendas, and intentions cannot be controlled by outside forces however WE do ALLOW outside forces to influence these very things.
- The other party, is moor than likely, only exhibiting what they have been shown (seen, heard, taught, or experienced). The conditioning of most people is that of the infamous saying: “Products of my environment”. Although there are some of us who view this as an excuse or someone playing victim, it is a very real thing that some people’s mind cannot disconnect enough from their experience or environment long enough to see that life is far bigger than such minute things.
Once you begin to digest and understand the aforementioned truths, you will then be better able to communicate with and dismiss the pettiness of others. Make sure to judge each individual situation objectively in order to respond accordingly. (NOTE: your response says moor about you than it does about the other party)
And then judge the individual not by what they have done in the moment but by their actions over time. (NOTE: Actions on all scales. Towards you and others. HUMANITY, what they have PUT OUT into the UNIVERSE)
*Also bear in mind that if communication was happening there was a message involved. Are TEMPORARY feelings moor important than getting the message across to the listener in a way that they understand?
For moor tips on actively listening you can read this article: https://positivepsychologyprogram.com/active-listening/
Peace, Love, and Light